You are in a relationship with your body


Health. Healthy Living. Research. Body.

Relationships work best when we respect one another, and respect is an action. Listening to your body when it says its needs something and giving it what it asks for – such as rest and relaxation when it’s tired, water when it’s thirsty, nutritious food when it’s hungry and pampering all the time – are behaviors that demonstrate respect. It’s not enough to say you love your body, and then abuse it. Forcing yourself to stay awake past your body’s bedtime is not a respectful act, particularly if it’s done on a regular basis. Stuff yourself with more food when your body says “I’ve had enough” is not a good thing either.

The relationship between you and your body will improve when you take responsibility for your actions. It’s easy to use your past or your environment or even your feelings as excuses for not taking care of yourself, but to have and maintain good health, you must take responsibility for what you have  done and continue to do to your body. What excuses are you making? Who are you blaming for the condition your body is in? How can you start taking responsibility now?

Taking responsibility begins with gathering information. Read up on health matters in your favorite magazine. Most have a column or a regular department addressing health issues. Go to the library, look on the Internet, and ask questions of health care professionals. Gather information about your body. When was the last time you had a regular physical? Do you know what’s going on with your body? Are you confused about which medical exams/screenings you should have and when? While identifying which exams you need can be overwhelming and frightening, it’s worth the effort. Ask your doctor which tests are appropriate for someone of your gender, race, and age. There may even be specific tests given to people who live in certain geographical regions. Look into it.

Another step in the process of self-care is being proactive, that is, taking positive action before there is a problem. The opposite of proactive is reactive, when you wait until your body, in desperation, cries out for help. And sometimes you wait until great damage is already done.

Thus, the more you know, the more you can help yourself. The Internet is a wonderful resource. This is an important step in taking care of your health. Here is a short alphabetical list of screenings you might want to consider: AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, blood pressure, bone density, breast exam, cholesterol, fecal occult blood test, glucose, hearing, mammogram, PAP smear, problem-drinking assessment, prostate-specific antigen test, thyroid-stimulating hormone measurement, and vision. Find out which ones you need, and take them.

Don’t wait and see.

Find out now. If there is a problem that needs to be addressed, take care of it immediately. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

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Good Health is a Privilege


Good health is not a right, it’s a privilege.  

Most of us are born with a functional body and healthy parts. As children, many of us learn how to take care of those parts: regularity brushing our teeth, washing our skin and hair, eating properly, doing exercise, getting checkups, practicing mental stimulation and emotional self-care. But even with the best early training, we often still fall prey to bad habits.

When it comes to our health most of us are more concerned with how we look than how we feel. For many people, the outside takes priority over the inside. We spend hours in front of the mirror focused on the shape of our muscles rather than the condition they are in. We’ve been taught to believe that the better our bodies look, the greater our self-love. Not so.

How often have you seen a beautiful body attached to an unhealthy mind? Or a pretty woman with a cigarette hanging out of her mouth? Or a gorgeous guy addicted to alcohol or drugs? How often have you seen a thin, well-shaped person who has bad skin?


Good Health. Smart Choices.

Good healthy is a result of choices, smart, courageous, proactive, well-thought-out choices, which aren’t always easy to make. Choices that sometimes require that you say “STOP” when everyone says “GO,” or that require you to say “YES” when others say “NO.”

Self-esteem comes from doing Esteemable Acts, including making the right choices for your health. You don’t have to wait until it’s too late to wake up and practice self-care. You can start now, regardless of how old you are.


Start Anew Today!

What choices regarding your healthy are you making today?  Take some time to explore the consequences of your previous health and lifestyle choices. Sometimes reality hurts, especially as we get older and realize we can’t go back and change the past. But the good news is that no matter what our past choices, we can start anew today and live the healthiest life we can, for as long as we can.

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Chris Borland. 49ers. Self esteem.


Chris Borland. 49ers. Self esteem.

Self esteem.

Self esteem.

Self Esteem Comes from DOING Esteemable Acts, and it’s an Esteemable Acts to have the courage to make tough choices.

How many people, yet alone a 24-year-old, would walk away from a multi-million dollar NFL contract and the opportunity to make much more in the future? I bet not most folks.  Yet, that’s what San Francisco 49ers linebacker Chris Borland did on Monday.  Self esteem comes from doing Esteemable Acts. Amazing!

Chris Borland just completed his rookie season for the 49ers, when he announced that he was retiring from pro football. His reason: mental health and physical wellbeing.  He chose not to be one of the many NFL casualties, who suffered long-term repetitive head trauma due to concussions.  Head trauma and its severe consequences is not new to football, but of late, the issue has become more public.  And, a few young athletes have made the choice to walk away, rather than live life like a vegetable.  Chris Borland is walking away from a lucrative four-year contract, with the 49ers, worth about $3 million, which includes a $617,436 signing bonus.  Some call him crazy; I call him courageous and smart.  Self-esteem comes from doing Esteemable Acts.

Head injuries and the NFL.

Repetitive head injuries have become a major concern for the NFL over the past several years. Many ex-NFL players are suffering from chronic long-term neurological problems as result of concussions and head trauma they suffered during their careers.  Everyone knows this is a problem, yet money is more powerful than common sense.  In fact, how can any thinking person say if you repeatedly get banged in the head that you will not suffer severe injuries?  According to a PBS report from 2014, 76 of 79 deceased NFL players were found to have some form of “brain disease.” In 2013, the NFL settled a $765 million class action lawsuit brought on by ex-players who said they suffer from illnesses due to head trauma. The suit alleged that the NFL covered up the long-term effects of head injuries.

Chris Borland said he began having doubts about his NFL future after what he believes was a concussion he suffered during his rookie training camp. He played through the injury because he was trying to make the team. Borland told ESPN, “I just thought to myself, ‘What am I doing? Is this how I’m going to live my adult life, banging my head, especially with what I’ve learned and know about the dangers?” It was after consulting with concussion researchers and former NFL players and discussing his concerns with his family, he came to the decision to retire.

And what a gentleman, he has decided to repay the 49ers part of his salary.

Money vs. Health and Well-being?

How much money is a person’s long-term health worth? Would you risk debilitating illness for your entire life for a chance to make millions of dollars?

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Smart Goals. Commitment. Setting Goals.


Smart Goals. Commitment. Setting Goals.

Smart Goals. Setting Goals.

Smart Goals. Setting Goals.

Another year has come to a close. Where did it go? Where have the last 15 years gone? I remember when we were all getting ready for the New Millennium. Now, 15 years later we wonder where did the time go?  Personally I love this time of year because it is the beginning of a New Year and it’s right before my birthday. It is a time to reflect. A time to assess my last year’s commitment to my goals, and a time to create a new commitment for setting goals.  It’s a time to get excited about all that awaits me.

Additionally what I particularly like about this time of year is that it gives me, yet, another opportunity to be grateful — for the small stuff.  And I know what is true for me is also true for you.  It is an opportunity to ponder all that we’ve been given, all that was taken away, and all that we were left with. So together, let’s renew our commitment to setting goals.

First, let’s reflect on your goals from 2014. Ask yourself:

  • Of the goals you set last year, which ones did you accomplish?
  • What did it take for you to accomplish those goals?
  • Of those you did not accomplish, what do you think got in the way of you realizing those dreams?

Now, let’s turn to this year. It’s a brand new chapter, a clean slate, where you get to create the first patch of your 2015 quilt.  Ask yourself, what is important for you to accomplish by the end of this year? What will it take to make that happen? Make the commitment today to make it real. Write each goal down on a colored index card. Most folks call them Smart Goals, but I also call them SWARM Goals.  Here are some additional things to take into account as you are identifying your goals:

  1. SWARM goals
    1. Specific,
    2. Written,
    3. Achievable,
    4. Realistic,
    5. Measurable;
  2. Feel free to do whatever you like, but what works for me is categorizing my smart goals or SWARM goals. I like to put my goals in categories e.g., health, financial, business/work related, spiritual, personal development, relationships (family and friends), miscellaneous;
  3. After I identify the big overriding goals, I break my tasks into small manageable pieces — baby steps.

To motivate you in this New Year, also consider the following affirmations:

  • Just for today, I will keep my eye on the goal.
  • Just for today, I will have the courage to risk failure.
  • Just for today, I am willing to try something new.
  • Just for today, I see myself as living the life of my dreams.

Throughout the year check-in with yourself (or me) on your SWARM goals and be honest about your progress. Make sure to ask yourself, “Are my goals achievable and realistic?” Let’s make this a great year!

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Golden Gate Bridge. Suicide. Suicide Hotline. $76 Million on a Net.


Golden Gate Bridge. Suicide.

Golden Gate Bridge. Suicide.

Golden Gate Bridge. Suicide.

The Golden Gate Bridge caused 46 suicides in 2014. Or at least, that is what the Golden Gate Bridge, Highway and Transportation District board would have you believe. They voted on Friday, June 27, 2014 to approve a $76 million project to install a safety net on both sides of the Golden Gate Bridge. Why? Apparently to avert suicide. (How ironic, considering the economic opposition to a high speed rail through California, yet $76 million for a net is okay). Am I dreaming or what? In a state that screams poverty, because we do not have enough funds to provide services to those in need, we dare spend $76-million on a suicide net. Not $76 or even $7,600, but $76 million dollars to build a net around the Golden Gate Bridge, ostensibly to prevent suicide. Why not spend some of that money to beef up the suicide hotline, or seriously address the mental health (including substance abuse) issues.

It’s reported that $27 million would come from the federal Surface Transportation Program, $22 million from the federal Local Highway Bridge Program, $20 million from its own reserves, and $7 million from California Mental Health Service Act money.

Suicide. Suicide Hotline. Golden Gate Bridge.

The District’s general manager, Dennis Mulligan said, “People committing suicide by jumping from the bridge has been a problem for many years… in 2013, 46 people committed suicide on the bridge.”

The irony is that the Bridge District members, who unanimously approved this measure, obviously believe the bridge cause suicides. Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide knows, where there is a will there is a way.  If someone really wants to take their life–they will. If they can’t jump off the Golden Gate Bridge, they will go to the Bay Bridge, or the Dumbarton Bridge, or the San Mateo Bridge, or the Benicia Bridge, or any number of other bridges in the Bay Area. And if they really want to take their life and no bridge is available, they will find a more immediate and lethal option. I personally know that all too well.

Instead of spending $76 million to build a net around the Golden Gate Bridge, why not spend some of that money of health care provisions and counseling for those who want to commit suicide? Or why not invest in changing the conditions that drive people to want to commit suicide?  Invest in a suicide hotline. Make the suicide hotline a truly valuable resource. The issue is not the bridge.

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