Focus. Goals. Self esteem.

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Stay focused on the goal.

Focus. Goals.

Focus. Goals.

Self-esteem comes from staying focused on your goals, and focus is the key to making something happen. It’s about being attentive to the goals, about keeping the end in mind. I learned from a wise person many years ago, that where I place my attention is what I ultimately manifest.

How many times have you made a commitment to yourself and not kept it? How many times have you just allowed stuff to get in the way of your doing what you said you would do? When we regularly neglect our needs and desires to the point that it becomes a lifestyle choice, we pay dearly.

So why do we get off track? Why do we allow ourselves to lose sight of what we say is important in the moment? There are lots of reasons, some more valid than others. Our emergencies, other people’s emergencies, lack of money, lack of time, insufficient information, no child care, our spouse, our boss, our kids – are all examples of excuses we use for not attending to our own needs. But regardless of the validity of our excuses, if we’re really honest with ourselves, we see that most often it boils down to fear.
Attaining focus and staying on track is about keeping agreements with ourselves. Eventually, to succeed at what we want to do in life, we must start doing the things that lead to our success, regardless of life’s distractions. We must be willing to take action regardless of how we feel. We must stay focused on the goal.

Here are some simple steps to take to focus on your goals today:

  • Identify three things you’ve been putting off doing. Whatever it is, this is the day to call it what it is: important unfinished business.
  • Create an intention to stay focused on what’s important. Write out a positive statement saying what you indent to do regarding those three things you’ve been putting off.
  • Identify the task and break it into small pieces. What small steps can you take to get you started?
  • Schedule everything. In your date book or on your electric calendar, schedule blocks of time – every week – to work on the small pieces that you’ve identified.I invite you to have the courage to stay focused on your needs and desires – no matter what!
    Feel free to join my conversation on Facebook, Facebook Esteemable Acts Fan Page, or my Facebook Law Page, you can also interact with me on my Twitter Esteemable Acts page, Twitter Law Page, or on LinkedIn.

Girl Scouts. Ethics. Courage.

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Girl Scouts is for every girl!  Ethics. Courage.

Ethics. Values. Courage.

Ethics. Values. Courage.

Would you accept money in the form of a donation if it meant compromising your principles? Well, Megan Ferland, the CEO of Girl Scouts of Western Washington was put to the test when she received a $100,000 donation. It takes great courage to do what is right, especially when you go against the status quo. Ethics, it’s one thing to talk about ethics, and it’s another to practice it.

This seemingly generous donation to the Girl Scouts of Western Washington, however, came with a condition, a condition Megan Ferland wasn’t willing to compromise on. The donor specifically asked for a guarantee that none of the money be used for transgender girls, or the money should be returned.

Ferland promptly returned the money saying “Girl Scouts is for every girl. And every girl should have the opportunity to be a Girl Scout if she wants to.” This wasn’t an easy decision because the Girl Scouts really needed that money. It was to be used to help families who couldn’t afford to pay for Girl Scouts enroll their children.

“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

Instead of accepting that the $100,000 was gone, the Girl Scouts used the unfortunate incident as a rallying call and started an Indiegogo fundraiser (#ForEVERYGIRL) in an attempt to recoup some of the lost donation. Wouldn’t you know it, before the end of the first day of fundraising they had surpassed their goal and were close to raising $200,000!

How many people sell-out their principles every day in return for money, fame, or a career? I’m not downplaying people’s needs, they are real. That’s why it often takes courage to do the right thing. But as is the case for the Girl Scouts of Western Washington, doing the right thing and living true to your principles usually pays off in the end.

So, how about you? Are you living your life in concert with your convictions and principles, or do you find yourself compromising or simply giving in?

Feel free to join my conversation on FacebookFacebook Esteemableacts Fan Page, or my Facebook Law Page, you can also interact with me on my Twitter Esteemable Acts pageTwitter Law Page, or on LinkedIn.

 

Will. Family Trust. Seniors. Elder Abuse. Seniors helping seniors. Center for Spiritual Living

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Seniors. Center for Spiritual Living. Will. Family Trust.   

Seniors helping seniors. Law.

Seniors helping seniors. Law.

  • Are you a senior 55 years or older?
  • Do you have kids or grand-kids?
  • Do you have a Will? a Trust?
  • Do you know someone who is the victim of elder abuse?
  • Do you have questions about your rights as a senior, but don’t know where to go for answers?

If you answered “Yes” to any of the above, then this seminar is for you.

Center for Spiritual Living. Seniors Helping Seniors. Elder Abuse.

On Saturday, April 12, 2014 at the Center for Spiritual Living, Palm Desert, I will be presenting an informative program designed for seniors (or those who may someday be).  In this content-rich, interactive seminar, we will discuss a number of issues confronting seniors, such as:

  1. Finances and debt
  2. Social Security and insurance
  3. Consumer Scams
  4. Care-giving
  5. Employment
  6. Healthcare
  7. Elder abuse/elder fraud
  8. Grandparents’ rights
  9. Divorce and remarriage
  10. Estate planning and legal services

Will. Family Trust. Seniors. Elder Abuse

Admission to this program is free, however, we do accept Love Offerings (voluntary donations). Here are some of the questions I’ll answer on Saturday:

  • Is there special tax relief for seniors?
  • Can I be evicted from my home because I’m a senior?
  • Can a landlord prevent me from having a pet
  • How do I make sure my affairs will be handled like I want them to be handled when I die?
  • Do I need a will? A trust?
  • How do I know if I am a victim of elder abuse?
  • How do I become guardian of my grand-kids?
  • If I get divorced, will I still get social security benefits on my husband’s work record?
  • What consumer scams should I be aware of?
  • and many more!

Look forward to seeing you on Saturday. I am Speaker, Author, and Attorney Francine Ward helping you protect what’s yours.  I am also a licensed Religious Science Practitioner. Feel free to share this info with a  senior in need of  some useful information. I can also be found on Facebook (Legal and Esteemable Acts), Twitter (Legal and Esteemable Acts)

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Self-esteem. Self esteem quotes. Metropolitan Opera. Met Opera HD. Werther. Esteemable Acts.

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Fun Activities. Self esteem quotes. Self-esteem.

Self-esteem comes from DOING Esteemable Acts, and it’s an Esteemable Act to enjoy your life.

Fun Activities. Self-esteem.

Fun Activities. Self-esteem.

Fifteen years ago, I was asked by a number of people, “What do you do for fun?” I was embarrassed because I had no answer.  It wasn’t that I hadn’t thought about fun, I just wasn’t doing anything about it. That query compelled me to assess my life. What was I doing? Where was I going? How do I spend my time?  Not only did I think about adding fun into my life, I thought about all the unrealized dreams I had.   That was a defining moment for me. In that moment, my life was forever changed.

Sometimes it takes a jolt to wake us up. I’d like to say that my lessons have all come easily and that I just woke up one day and said, “I think I’ll change today.” Not. In my experience, change is always preceded by a discouraging or disappointing event; a thunderbolt of sorts. Sometimes the catalyst is just realizing that I don’t have a lot of time left. Regardless of how much time I have, my days are still numbered. I don’t want to be one of those people taking my last breath saying, “I wish I had done things differently.”

Metropolitan Opera. Met Opera HD. Werther.

So what did I do for fun this week? I went for a walk with a girlfriend, I had lunch with another, and I went to the Opera and experienced Massenet’s Werther. What a week I had! And because I did some fun things, my work week was better, my relationship with my husband was better, and I could be happily and gratefully available for my service commitments. Life is good.

What did you do for fun this week?

Join my conversation on my Esteemable Acts Facebook Fan page, my Esteemable Acts Twitter page, or in one of my LinkedIn Groups.

 

 

Personal Responsibility. Oscar Pistorius. Jason Bohn. Law and Order SVU.

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Personal Responsibility. Jason Bohn.

Personal Responsibility. Oscar Pistorius. Jason Bohn

Personal Responsibility. Oscar Pistorius. Jason Bohn

We just don’t want to take personal responsibility for our actions. And why should we?  As long as we can blame someone else for the choices we make, AND get away with it, why not keep up the good work.

The story of Jason Bohn is one such story.  To be clear, this is NOT the golfer Jason Bohn.

Once upon a time there was a wealthy lawyer, with an Ivy League background, who had it all.  Or at least at first glance, he appeared to have it all.  But we know that things are not always as they appear, and even if they are, there is someone to blame when things don’t turn out like you plan. His story is very similar to that of Oscar Pistorius , Jared Remy, Jovan Belcher, and countless other men who killed their girlfriends and wives. What is up with this–everyday in the news there is another account.  But the story of Bohn stands out because of his defense, “My mommie made me do it.”

Bohn graduated from Columbia University, and his mom, Maureen O’Connell, is the chief financial officer for Scholastic Publishing.  She earns over 1 million dollars annually.  But delve a little deeper into this fairytale picture and a much darker side is revealed.

Jason Bohn is currently on trial for the murder of his girlfriend. In June of 2012, Danielle Thomas, 27, an executive with Weight Watchers was found in the bathtub of the Queens apartment she shared with Jason Bohn. The young woman was strangled and beaten to death. Prosecutors claim that Bohn then fled the scene and was eventually captured in White Plains, a suburb of New York City.

According to the prosecution, Bohn and Thomas had a tumultuous relationship filled with fights that were often triggered by Bohn’s jealousy. One of the key pieces of evidence against Mr. Bohn is an alleged recording from a phone that accidentally went to a friend’s voicemail from the night of the murder. In the recording, a man who prosecutors claim to be Bohn is heard threatening Ms. Thomas and interrogating her about a phone-number she was being accused of calling. At one point in the recording a male voice is heard saying “’you have five seconds and then, and then I’m going to kill you.”

In a tragic twist to her senseless death, Ms. Thomas was offered a place to stay on the night of her murder but went back to the apartment because she feared for the safety of her dog, who Mr. Bohn had allegedly threatened to kill on numerous occasions.

After the murder, Bohn allegedly used his girlfriend’s cell phone to leave text messages to her parents saying that all was well. He also allegedly called an ex-girlfriend and confessed to getting drunk and striking Ms. Thomas up against a wall. The message also asked the former girlfriend not to speak to law enforcement until his attorneys had a chance to contact her.

Mommie Made Me Do It.  Law and Order SVU.

Mr. Bohn’s defense will attempt to show that he is suffering from mental illness and did not understand what he was doing when he killed Ms. Thomas. They will attempt to show that Mr. Bohn suffered an abusive childhood and that he was abandoned by his mother at age 10 so that she could go chase after her corporate career. Adding intrigue to this case is the much anticipated appearance of Alexander Sasha Bardey, a renowned forensic psychiatrist from Los Angeles, who is slated to testify for the defense. Dr. Bardey is a consultant for the hit television show ‘Law and Order: Special Victims Unit.’  Essentially, Bardey and Bohn’s defense team will help him prove that his mommie made him do it.

This case shines light on several important issues that we face as a society:

  1. Domestic violence (as we see from the Pistorius murder trial);
  2. The responsibility of one to address these issues before a fatal incident occurs;
  3. Can an adult blame his or her violent behavior on their childhood? Should they?  If so, to what extent? Is it ever their fault?
  4. Can a woman who chooses her career over motherhood be held responsible for the behavior of her grown children?
  5. Is there a role society plays? If so, what? If not, why not?

I’m Attorney, Speaker, Author Francine Ward.   Feel free to join the conversation on my Esteemable Acts Facebook Page, my Esteemable Acts Twitter Page, or in one of my LinkedIn Groups.