Mind. Good Health. Happiness.

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Self-esteem.

Health

Health. Emotion.

Emotional fitness is an important part of good health. What goes into your mind is an important as what goes into your body. Even if your physical body is healthy, if you’re imbalanced emotionally, your self-esteem can be affected. Therefore, investing in the care and feeding of your mind is a critical step to good health.

One consequence of not taking care of your mind is depression, a buildup of unaddressed, unacknowledged, and unheard, unappreciated, alone, as if you lack control over your life, ill-equipped to handle life on its own terms – these are conditions that often drive us to depression. And some of the symptoms are not eating, overrating, isolating, or resuming an old destructive habit, such as smoking, drinking, or gambling. At some time or another we all face problems – financial, personal, family, health, spiritual – and must deal with the realities of depression. How we handle depression and how long we remain in it are determined by our willingness to take certain actions.

While it would be easy to say all depression can be remedied with one solution, that’s not true. However, the following suggestions have worked for me and countless others, and may work for you too. However, if you are severely depressed and have had suicidal thoughts, please contact a health care professional.

  • Take Action: For many people, action is the key to alleviating or eliminating depression.
  • Be Patient: It’s normal to want instantaneously results after you’ve taken an action. But in truth, results rarely happen immediately.
  • Enlist A Friend: Having someone to talk to about your feelings is important.
  • Read Daily Mediations: Consider beginning each day with selected readings from positive, uplifting books.
  • Spend Quiet Time Alone: By allowing daily quiet time you create a balance between the doing and the being aspect of your life.

What can you do right now, this moment, to move your closer to better health? Perhaps getting a physical exam or just making an appointment with a doctor, or quitting smoking or drinking?  Eating a green salad, buying a quart bottle of water and drinking it all, making a spa appointment, going for a brisk walk outside or on the treadmill?

Feel free to join my conversation on FacebookFacebook Esteemableacts Fan Page, or my Facebook Law Page, you can also interact with me on my Twitter Esteemable Acts page, Twitter Law Page, or on LinkedIn.

Be In The Moment.

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Keep Your Mind Where Your Body Is

In The Moment.

In The Moment.

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who wasn’t there? Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you weren’t there? Have you ever been in a meeting and no one was there? Most likely, you could unequivocally say yes to all of the above.

From time to time, and more often for some of us, we allow something outside of ourselves to distract us from what’s important in the moment. I often allow myself to become distracted. I allow something to take me on a metal detour, whether I’m diverted by other people’s behavior or drawn into their drama. All of these diversions mean my mind is not where my body is.

When we allow ourselves to be distracted from what’s happening in the moment, those around us suffer. People are affected, including our children, our spouses, our partners, our friends, co-workers, or anyone we might be connected with in the moment. When we go astray mentally or emotionally, we send a message to the person that he or she doesn’t matter. That he or she is not important enough to hold our attention. Our words may say “you matter,” but her actions scream something else.

Not long ago, I was sitting in a meeting with a honking began outside the window. It was loud and continuous. Many of the attendees, including me, became obsessed with the noise for the entire hour and a half. The honking was a condition we could not control, but we could control our reactions to it. We gave each other looks and whispered about the noise. We got so bothered by the outside condition that we ourselves ultimately became the distraction.

You Have A Choice.

Perhaps we were justified in being disturbed. But in truth, each of us had a choice as to whether to give away our power.

We each made a decision, conscious or otherwise, to allow a condition to control our experience. I allowed my attention to be stolen right out from under me. Those of us who choose to be distracted suffered because we missed out on the valuable information offered by the speaker and instead spent the entire time being angry about something we couldn’t control. The presenter suffered because he was never able to recapture the attention of the 15 or 20 people who went along with me for the mental ride. It was a  lose-lose situation for all concerned.

So what can we do to be more present? How can we bring our minds more in alignment with our body?

  • For starters, admit your mind it’s not always we are your body is. Denying any problem is a prescription for failure.
  • Become aware of those times when your attention is diverted in another direction. Call it what it is!
  • Be willing to see the damage to yourself, to your relationship, and to your serenity when you are not fully present. Get honest about how it affects you and others. A bold move is to ask someone you’re in a relationship with how your behavior affects him or her.
  • Be a careful and attentive listener. Listen to understand, and not to judge.
  • Practice quieting your busy mind. The noise in the brain is sometimes overwhelming that we simply must shut it off.
  • Practice staying in the moment. Hold your attention. When your mind wanders, gently bring it back.

I invite you to be aware of how often you are distracted. During an important meeting, you were thinking about what you’re having for lunch. Maybe during lunch, you were thinking about work. Maybe when you’re with the kids, your attention was diverted to something else that made you not able to give them your full attention.

Then practice staying in the moment. You may find it challenging at first, but after a while, it’ll become easier. Whenever your mind wants to move away from where your body is, gently bring it back.

Do you like Multitasking? Are you Distracted?

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Do you like Multitasking? Distracted.

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Distracted. Multitasking

Do you ever find yourself distracted? Do you think you are good at multitasking?

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who wasn’t there? Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and you weren’t there?  Better still have you ever been in a meeting with several people, and no one was there? Most likely, you can unequivocally say yes to all of the above.

From time to time, and more often for some of us, we allow something outside of ourselves to distract us from what’s happening in the moment. Distraction is often a problem. For some reason we believe multitasking is the way to go. I sometimes find myself becoming distracted. I allow my thoughts to take me on a mental detour. Whether I’m diverted by other people’s behavior or drawn into their drama, these diversions mean my mind is not where by body is.

When we allow ourselves to be distracted from what’s happening in the moment, those around us suffer. Our children are affected, our spouses, our partners, our friends, our co-workers, or anyone we might be connecting with in the moment. We send a message to that person that he or she isn’t important enough to hold our attention. Our words may say “you matter,” but our actions scream something else.

Here are some other consequences of not being distracted:

  • You miss opportunities to connect in ways that can only happen when you’re actively listening.
  • You miss useful information that could help you get through a rough period.
  • You can become misinformed, and open yourself up to misunderstanding because you only have part of the story.

Be Present.

What can we do to be more present in each moment and less distracted? How can we bring our mind in alignment with our body?

  • For starters, admit your mind in not always where your body is.
  • Become aware of those times when your attention is diverted in another direction. Call it what it is!
  • Be willing to see the damage to yourself, to your relationships, and to your serenity when you are not fully present. Get honest about how it affects you and others.
  • Be a careful and attentive listener. Listen to understand, not to judge.

Bring to mind a time when you body wasn’t where you mind was. What happened? What drew your attention anyway from where you were? What could you have done differently?

Practice being in the here and now. When you get distracted, bring yourself back to the NOW. You may find it challenging at first, but as most things, it’ll become easier over time.

Emotional Fitness

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Good Health.

Good health. Yoga woman relaxing by seaEmotional fitness is an important part of good health. What goes into your mind is an important as what goes into your body. Even if your physical body is healthy, if you’re imbalanced emotionally, your self-esteem can be affected. Therefore, investing in the care and feeding of your mind is a critical step to good health.

Taking Care of the Mind.

One consequence of not taking care of your mind is depression, a buildup of unaddressed, unacknowledged, and unheard, unappreciated, alone, as if you lack control over your life, ill-equipped to handle life on its own terms – these are conditions that often drive us to depression. And some of the symptoms are not eating, overrating, isolating, or resuming an old destructive habit, such as smoking, drinking, or gambling. At some time or another we all face problems – financial, personal, family, health, spiritual – and must deal with the realities of depression. How we handle depression and how long we remain in it are determined by our willingness to take certain actions.

While it would be easy to say all depression can be remedied with one solution, that’s not true. However, the following suggestions have worked for me and countless others, and may work for you too. However, if you are severely depressed and have had suicidal thoughts, please contact a health care professional.

  • Take Action: For many people, action is the key to alleviating or eliminating depression.
  • Be Patient: It’s normal to want instantaneously results after you’ve taken an action. But in truth, results rarely happen immediately.
  • Enlist A Friend: Having someone to talk to about your feelings is important.
  • Read Daily Mediations: Consider beginning each day with selected readings from positive, uplifting books.
  • Spend Quiet Time Alone: By allowing daily quiet time you create a balance between the doing and the being aspect of your life.

What can you do right now, this moment, to move your closer to better health? Perhaps getting a physical exam or just making an appointment with a doctor, or quitting smoking or drinking?  Eating a green salad, buying a quart bottle of water and drinking it all, making a spa appointment, going for a brisk walk outside or on the treadmill?

Feel free to join my conversation on FacebookFacebook Esteemableacts Fan Page, or my Facebook Law Page, you can also interact with me on my Twitter Esteemable Acts page, Twitter Law Page, or on LinkedIn.